After thirteen days of pain, strife and struggle another unnamed life finally came to an end, and was reduces to ashes. The entire country is out on the streets demanding castration or capitation of the rapists. Women and men, young and old, all united, are demanding justice for that innocent girl and many others like her.
But somehow, this is not the feeling that is making me restless these days. Not that I am not in favor of harsh punishments for those demons, (people demand chemical castration, I hope for a physical castration) the trouble is that I see the roots of the problem spread far and wide in the people of our society. The social structure has been raping girls in our country for centuries. We are a society with wrong ideals, wrong morals and a set-up that is decayed from the roots itself. In simpler words, our culture is rotten, as rotten as bad eggs. Some one would slap me for this statement and say that India has a rich cultural cultural heritage and is enriched with moral values. I spit on the face of this horrific hypocrisy, the failed culture of this failed nation. Yes, this is the true face of India, the brutal assault on the 23 year old girl in a bus in Delhi, has exposed the devil hidden between the layers of misogynistic culture. A country where half the population is under a constant threat must cease to exist.
So, where did this failure begin?
Oh! we'll need to look back in time. As I said, we have wrong ideals. Remember Lord Rama? yes the same God that Hindus worship so piously, the God who banished his pregnant wife Sita because of a rumor amongst his subjects that she was no longer pure, not worthy enough to be their queen. Sita was banished and Rama became the symbol of righteousness, he kept his ideals ahead of his innocent wife, who had already suffered abduction. Ha!
This is what 80% of Indians, the Hindus consider the Ideal Man, the Purushottama. This is not the only proof of Misogyny in Hinduism.
The Manusmriti or Manava-Dharmashashtra, says that the only God for a woman is her Husband. The woman who does not speak unless told, respects and worships her husband, gets the highest honor she deserves, i.e to be with the same husband in her next birth.
This is the root cause that a woman is a second grade citizen in our nation. I'd be a fool to expect anything apart from brutal rapes from a society where this is the default situation of a woman. Here the purity and sanctity and modesty of a woman lies not in her heart, not in her brains, neither in her kind words, nor in her good behavior, but it lies in her vagina.
A nation that pretends that sex does not exist. You can not kiss in public, you can not show sex on television or in a movie because it is "dirty". You don't teach your kids sex because you deem it immoral. Such an immorality out of which you were born Indian, you are destined to be immoral.
But on the contrary we are so acceptable to molestation, assaults whether verbal, happening daily each second on the roads, or rapes. The girls are taught that such things are a part of life and should be ignored. What a pathetic attitude!
Today, why is no one questioning our culture, our social norms? Why is every body blaming clothes, alcohol, westernization, films, night, etc. etc. for a rape? Closing our eyes towards the real trouble is a habit deeply ingrained in we the Indians, we are filthy hypocrites.
How do you expect your sons to know that raping is wrong not only by the law but also by humanity standards, until you teach them this? You tell them not to kill, not to steal, then why do you not teach them not to rape?
Why do you teach your daughter to be subservient to their husbands, is she a born servant? Why do you not allow her to wear all she wants, go wherever, whenever she wants? You never prevent your sons? Why? Why must a girl be kept in?
Alas! I am tired of questioning! Half the country would have warned their daughters not to go out at night, but I'm afraid to ask, how many told their sons that they should learn that this is not how things are done?
Nobody seems to care, and why would we? Nobody wants a girl, parents kill them in the wombs, brothers deem them weaker, husbands beat them up and the others rape them. I wish girls are never born in this country. India should be a girl-free zone.
Today I'm ashamed of this country I live in. I curse that moment, when, due to an unwanted twist of luck I was born here.
My head hangs down in shame and sadness. I failed to change anyone.
Rest my case.
But somehow, this is not the feeling that is making me restless these days. Not that I am not in favor of harsh punishments for those demons, (people demand chemical castration, I hope for a physical castration) the trouble is that I see the roots of the problem spread far and wide in the people of our society. The social structure has been raping girls in our country for centuries. We are a society with wrong ideals, wrong morals and a set-up that is decayed from the roots itself. In simpler words, our culture is rotten, as rotten as bad eggs. Some one would slap me for this statement and say that India has a rich cultural cultural heritage and is enriched with moral values. I spit on the face of this horrific hypocrisy, the failed culture of this failed nation. Yes, this is the true face of India, the brutal assault on the 23 year old girl in a bus in Delhi, has exposed the devil hidden between the layers of misogynistic culture. A country where half the population is under a constant threat must cease to exist.
So, where did this failure begin?
Oh! we'll need to look back in time. As I said, we have wrong ideals. Remember Lord Rama? yes the same God that Hindus worship so piously, the God who banished his pregnant wife Sita because of a rumor amongst his subjects that she was no longer pure, not worthy enough to be their queen. Sita was banished and Rama became the symbol of righteousness, he kept his ideals ahead of his innocent wife, who had already suffered abduction. Ha!
This is what 80% of Indians, the Hindus consider the Ideal Man, the Purushottama. This is not the only proof of Misogyny in Hinduism.
The Manusmriti or Manava-Dharmashashtra, says that the only God for a woman is her Husband. The woman who does not speak unless told, respects and worships her husband, gets the highest honor she deserves, i.e to be with the same husband in her next birth.
This is the root cause that a woman is a second grade citizen in our nation. I'd be a fool to expect anything apart from brutal rapes from a society where this is the default situation of a woman. Here the purity and sanctity and modesty of a woman lies not in her heart, not in her brains, neither in her kind words, nor in her good behavior, but it lies in her vagina.
A nation that pretends that sex does not exist. You can not kiss in public, you can not show sex on television or in a movie because it is "dirty". You don't teach your kids sex because you deem it immoral. Such an immorality out of which you were born Indian, you are destined to be immoral.
But on the contrary we are so acceptable to molestation, assaults whether verbal, happening daily each second on the roads, or rapes. The girls are taught that such things are a part of life and should be ignored. What a pathetic attitude!
Today, why is no one questioning our culture, our social norms? Why is every body blaming clothes, alcohol, westernization, films, night, etc. etc. for a rape? Closing our eyes towards the real trouble is a habit deeply ingrained in we the Indians, we are filthy hypocrites.
How do you expect your sons to know that raping is wrong not only by the law but also by humanity standards, until you teach them this? You tell them not to kill, not to steal, then why do you not teach them not to rape?
Why do you teach your daughter to be subservient to their husbands, is she a born servant? Why do you not allow her to wear all she wants, go wherever, whenever she wants? You never prevent your sons? Why? Why must a girl be kept in?
Alas! I am tired of questioning! Half the country would have warned their daughters not to go out at night, but I'm afraid to ask, how many told their sons that they should learn that this is not how things are done?
Nobody seems to care, and why would we? Nobody wants a girl, parents kill them in the wombs, brothers deem them weaker, husbands beat them up and the others rape them. I wish girls are never born in this country. India should be a girl-free zone.
Today I'm ashamed of this country I live in. I curse that moment, when, due to an unwanted twist of luck I was born here.
My head hangs down in shame and sadness. I failed to change anyone.
Rest my case.
its very true... :(
ReplyDeletea real harsh truth! :(
Yes and this is high time we realize it!
Deletewow, really a nice piece of emotions Sriti ...not only of your own but i am sure of many girls, who are thinking on same nodes but are afraid to put their words...
ReplyDeleteI feel so ashamed of such society yaar, seriously....and these men who are sitting at the higher positions are not taking step because they know if they do so, might be they themselves get into trouble ....i don't have any decent words actually....to express my anger.
I know! I am so very irritated by each and everything!!!
DeleteI remember getting into an argument with a friend and this point of sex being a hush-hush topic in in India came up, it's absolutely unfair, we've changed in every other regard expect for our mind-set, that still remains narrow and forbidding. And I guess that is why most guys in India are so frustrated, they find it hard to put a lid on their temptations and animal cravings having being deprived for far too long!
ReplyDeleteI more than agree.. Patriarchy and unrealistic morals which are wrong from the roots themselves, are the 2 chief reasons of the deterioration of India.
Deleteits time to move against thease bludy culture that is disable for Philanthropy.
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